Measuring Up
But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
(Titus 2:1-3)
The article catches my eye with—If you sell your time as the measure of the work you do…
Whoa—in our modern-day world don’t we all sell our time as a measure? A few years ago some of the grandkids’ neighbors’ mom ‘went to work’ and some of the grandkids were explaining to me, ‘our mom doesn’t work.’
No, they weren’t explaining to me that their mom was lazy, they of course meant that their mom didn’t bring in a paycheck.
At that point, we had a come-to-grandma moment. For years I’ve been irked by the idea that a stay-at-home mother ‘doesn’t work.’
I do take issue with mothers who sit on their bum all day and watch T.V. or are on their phone all day, never cook, never take care of the home or kids.
Those kinds of mothers are out there and many of them garner a paycheck but not in an honest method. They give the good mothers a bad image. We could call them deadbeat moms just like the fathers we call deadbeat dads.
We know there is a lot that goes into being a good parent, whether it be a mom or a dad. And, no matter, if we admit it or not being a traditional stay-at-home mother is work.
Measuring up? Our current society isn’t measuring up well. Psychologists tell us families need to sit around the dinner table and talk as they used to do ‘in the good ole days.’ Children are growing up without the proper discipline and we are reaping the benefits.
There are many who ask the question, what has happened to our homes and families? We’ve seen the crumbling of our society since it is not just acceptable for women working outside the home, but almost mandatory.
I don’t know if this is true or not, but—feminists, some say, believe the option for women to remain in the home and be ‘just’ wives and mothers should be taken off the table because that’s where many/most women would like to be. Due to the bullying influence of the feminists, they have made it almost taboo for women to ‘just stay home.’
I can tell you this, there are so many things wrong with feminism that if feminism opposes something that in itself should be a proponent for what it opposes.
Back in his day, G.K. Chesterton asked the question, why is it better for a woman to take her time and talents and sell them to an employer (man) whom she doesn’t know and owes no allegiance to rather than to stay at home and love and care for a husband (whom she does voluntarily love and owe allegiance to) as well as family she has brought into this world?
The inconvenient truth is that the reason things became a tradition the way they did wasn’t because of a nebulous ‘patriarchy’, but because that’s the way they often work best.
Women are the ones who get pregnant, grow, and carry the child until birth. After birth, they are the ones equipped to suckle and nurture the infant and so forth. And for men to be the strong protector was the natural result as well.
As with the breakdown in our education system, I’ve more than once said, in order to fix the education system go back to where it worked well and use that system.
The same with our family breakdown and whatnot, go back to where and what works. Stop trying to tell ourselves we’re new and modern and don’t need traditions. If it ain’t broke don’t broke it.
Back in my day, I had determined to keep working for two years after marriage then I would quit my outside job when we started our family.
Chance had it that I started our family early—right after marriage as it were, so I quit working outside the home after a few months.
It seemed logical I would stay at home with the kids, since someone had to raise them it was reasonable that it would be me.
“Titus 2:1 But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:
2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.
7 In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity…”
